"It's that we understand that the Christian talking about his "spiritual experience" is just talking about stuff that's entirely imaginary."
Is it entirely imaginary though? I mean certainly the "magic" aspect of it is - but the actual emotions and physical changes in the body are a material fact.
So the experience is "real" and it's also "not real" - it's like telling someone who's having a panic attack that what they're feeling isn't real. It doesn't matter because that's what they are feeling - it is real to them right there in that context.
"what you've said implies that there's some middle ground, some area of reconciliation, and that's just unrealistic"
You mean in God existing vs. Not existing? Yeah there's no middle ground there. In the material validity of the experience? Yes there is.
"That doesn't mean that an atheist can't benefit from such experiences, it's just that the atheist recognizes from whence they come: responses and urges ingrained over generations by natural selection (for whatever reason, maybe HDS could chime in here, I think it really starts getting into the murky realm of evo-psych.) That doesn't mean that such urges aren't real, and that we can't therefore benefit from fulfilling them (though for some, recognizing that such urges don't represent a "god-sized hole in our hearts" means that they are able to live without such experiences.)"
I agree but "able to live without" does not mean "cannot benefit" which was what agent implied.
"The question of whether such experiences have the potential to be beneficial (even for folks of a secular humanist bent) is another discussion entirely from whether or not they are real, and I think that's where your discussion with Agent is breaking down (as is some weird quibble about the difference between "I think everyone could benefit from this" and "EVERYONE MUST DO THIS OR THEY ARE HORRIBLE.")"
I think the problem may have something to do with pre-conceptions about religion. I had similar problems when I first encountered this version of Buddhism, but I stuck it out and realized it was my own prejudices that were causing me to react this way, rather than anything the Buddhists were doing or saying.
"My opinion on all of it: a pretty good philosophy is "hey, if it works for you, that's pretty kick-ass, as long as you're not a gigantic jerk about all of it." So, good for you Desp, even if you're totally deluded. <3"
Thanks dex, glad to see you're being reasonable about this.